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The School of Greatness

From Doubt to Dominance & The Science of Cultivating Confidence EP 1482

Fri Aug 11 2023
personal growthself-confidencevisionary mindsetovercoming challengesemotional intelligencerelationshipsserviceinfinite mindsetgoal settingcommunication

Description

The episode covers topics such as unleashing true greatness, overcoming laziness and lack of energy, being a dreamer and visionary, using your voice and building self-confidence, the power of love and managing chaos, building self-confidence through relationships and service, living with an infinite mindset, metrics, goals, and bravery, and healthy disagreement and conflict. It emphasizes the importance of having a long-term vision, taking small steps towards transformation, learning from past experiences, nurturing relationships, helping others build confidence, focusing on service, and embracing an infinite mindset. The episode also explores the role of emotions, visualization, imagination, upbringing, and the concept of 'one more' in personal growth.

Insights

Unleash your true greatness

Join the Summit of Greatness in Columbus, Ohio to unleash your true greatness. Expect inspiring speakers, live music, group workouts, and evening connections.

Overcoming laziness and lack of energy

Laziness and lack of energy are common hindrances to overcome. The lack of vision and previous way of life contribute to laziness. Physical appearance of laziness can be caused by diet and habits. Quick changes may not be sustainable or helpful in the long run. Take small steps towards transformation instead of expecting huge jumps quickly. Consider how far your future vision should extend based on your season of life. Dream big and have a long-term vision for yourself.

Being a dreamer and visionary

Being a dreamer and visionary is important, as it allows you to imagine new possibilities. Having a vision that is unique to yourself is appealing, but it should not be unrealistic. Commitment is necessary alongside your vision, especially in terms of how you will use your identity and help others. If your intention is only to serve yourself and not others, you may achieve success but lack real stability and value in life. Connection with others and the world gives stability and value that cannot be taken away from you. Life can be seen as a video game with different levels of challenges. As you progress through life, the challenges become more complex, but you become more mature and skillful in handling them. Life doesn't get easier; you just become stronger and better equipped to manage challenges with peace and grace. When you're younger, life may seem easier because you haven't been exposed to adult ideas about what you should do with your life. Stepping into new seasons of life requires mastering the level you're at now by learning from past experiences. Sharing your knowledge and using your voice can come after a period of being quiet and observing.

Using your voice and building self-confidence

The speaker shares their journey of using their voice after being quiet for the first 35 years of their life. They emphasize the importance of preparation, energy, and different ways of expressing oneself. Confidence is linked to intention and faith, and keeping promises made to oneself is crucial for building self-confidence. The concept of 'one more standard' is introduced, where going beyond goals leads to superhuman self-confidence without lacking humility. The origin of the 'one more mindset' is attributed to the speaker's father's theories and experiences with sobriety.

The power of love and managing chaos

The speaker learned the 'one more' mindset from their dad, who believed in staying sober one day at a time and valued spending time with family. Believing that you're one decision away from a different life, the episode explores the role of visualization, imagination, upbringing, and emotions in personal growth. It emphasizes the importance of managing chaos, understanding the brain's filter for life, and creating a space for imagination. Most limiting beliefs are installed by loving people when we were young, and emotional home is influenced by our upbringing. 'Be careful' programming can limit confidence and risk-taking. Love is highlighted as the most powerful emotion.

Building self-confidence through relationships and service

Building self-confidence involves nurturing relationships and helping others build their confidence. The episode shares an experiment where a friend coached the speaker, resulting in increased confidence for both of them. Confidence is built through trust and reliance on others. Overcoming self-doubt can be achieved by helping someone else overcome it. Genuine care and commitment to the person being helped are essential. Service to others is at the core of building self-confidence. Focusing on service leads to confidence, while focusing on what we lack leads to more doubt. The Infinite Mindset emphasizes win-com-a-win-win-win rather than win-dash win.

Living with an infinite mindset

The Infinite Mindset is about win-win-win, not just win-win. There's no such thing as being number one in life. The episode explores the challenges faced by individual athletes and the importance of inspiration for little kids. It distinguishes between infinite games and finite games, emphasizing the need for both within the context of an infinite mindset. Living with an infinite mindset is compared to living a healthy lifestyle, where various practices contribute to overall well-being. While having finite goals and metrics can help measure progress, they are not the ultimate focus in an infinite mindset.

Metrics, goals, and bravery

Metrics and goals are important, but they should serve a bigger purpose. The episode shares a story about Gary Ridge from WD-40 and highlights the undiscovered work in organizations. It discusses the discomfort of in-person communication compared to online communication and cautions against using texting and social media as a false sense of bravery. Bravery should be manifested through actions and daily decisions.

Healthy disagreement and conflict

Many people have lost the desire to help others and prioritize self-preservation. The episode explores the healthy aspects of disagreement and competition when done respectfully. Allowing others to explain themselves, even when they are wrong, can lead to better communication. It suggests focusing on building rapport rather than immediately seeking a confession during interviews and interrogations. Conflict and confrontation are seen as opportunities for growth and understanding. Competitiveness should be an open dialogue rather than aggressive or confrontational.

Chapters

  1. Join the Summit of Greatness
  2. Overcoming Laziness and Lack of Energy
  3. Being a Dreamer and Visionary
  4. Using Your Voice and Building Self-Confidence
  5. The Power of Love and Managing Chaos
  6. Building Self-Confidence through Relationships and Service
  7. Living with an Infinite Mindset
  8. Metrics, Goals, and Bravery
  9. Healthy Disagreement and Conflict
Summary
Transcript

Join the Summit of Greatness

00:02 - 08:20

  • Unleash your true greatness
  • Expect inspiring speakers like Inky Johnson, Jaspri Singh, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jen Sinzhero, and more
  • Participate in live music, group workouts, and evening connections

Overcoming Laziness and Lack of Energy

00:02 - 08:20

  • Laziness and lack of energy are common hindrances to overcome
  • The lack of vision and previous way of life contribute to laziness
  • Physical appearance of laziness can be caused by diet and habits
  • Quick changes may not be sustainable or helpful in the long run
  • Take small steps towards transformation instead of expecting huge jumps quickly
  • Consider how far your future vision should extend based on your season of life
  • Dream big and have a long-term vision for yourself

Being a Dreamer and Visionary

08:08 - 17:40

  • Being a dreamer and visionary is important, as it allows you to imagine new possibilities.
  • Having a vision that is unique to yourself is appealing, but it should not be unrealistic.
  • Commitment is necessary alongside your vision, especially in terms of how you will use your identity and help others.
  • If your intention is only to serve yourself and not others, you may achieve success but lack real stability and value in life.
  • Connection with others and the world gives stability and value that cannot be taken away from you.
  • Life can be seen as a video game with different levels of challenges.
  • As you progress through life, the challenges become more complex, but you become more mature and skillful in handling them.
  • Life doesn't get easier; you just become stronger and better equipped to manage challenges with peace and grace.
  • When you're younger, life may seem easier because you haven't been exposed to adult ideas about what you should do with your life.
  • Stepping into new seasons of life requires mastering the level you're at now by learning from past experiences.
  • Sharing your knowledge and using your voice can come after a period of being quiet and observing.

Using Your Voice and Building Self-Confidence

17:12 - 24:03

  • Speaker shares that they used to be a very quiet person and didn't talk much for the first 35 years of their life.
  • They started using their voice when people asked them to explain what they were doing, such as in martial arts.
  • The speaker believes that throwing a punch is not just a physical action, but also involves preparation and energy.
  • They mention the importance of yin yang symbol in martial arts and how it relates to different ways of expressing oneself.
  • The host asks about the speaker's confidence in using their voice despite being introverted before. The speaker recalls always knowing what they would say internally, but keeping it to themselves because they thought it was pointless or superficial.
  • The speaker links confidence to intention and mentions faith as part of the confidence trilogy. They emphasize the importance of keeping promises made to oneself for building self-confidence.
  • They introduce the concept of 'one more standard' where one goes beyond their goals by doing one more rep or contact, leading to superhuman self-confidence without lacking humility.
  • The host asks about the origin of the 'one more mindset', which the speaker attributes to their father's theories and experiences with sobriety.

The Power of Love and Managing Chaos

23:34 - 29:13

  • Learned the 'one more' mindset from his dad
  • Dad believed in staying sober one day at a time
  • Dad didn't care about material possessions, valued spending time with family
  • Believing that you're one decision away from a different life
  • The Matrix is your brain's filter for your entire life
  • Visualization can help shift your perspective and attract opportunities
  • Operating out of imagination and dreams instead of worries and fears
  • Imagination creates a space that didn't exist before, which the brain tries to furnish
  • Most limiting beliefs are installed by loving people when we were young
  • Emotional home is influenced by our upbringing
  • 'Be careful' programming can limit confidence and risk-taking
  • Love is the most powerful emotion

Building Self-Confidence through Relationships and Service

35:14 - 41:45

  • Building self-confidence involves looking to our friends and nurturing relationships.
  • Helping others build their confidence can help us build our own.
  • The speaker conducted an experiment with a dear friend who was struggling.
  • The friend coached the speaker, resulting in increased confidence for both of them.
  • Confidence is built through trust and reliance on others.
  • Overcoming self-doubt can be achieved by helping someone else overcome it.
  • Genuine care and commitment to the person being helped is essential.
  • Service to others is at the core of building self-confidence.
  • Focusing on what we lack leads to more doubt, while focusing on service leads to confidence.
  • The Infinite Mindset emphasizes win-com-a-win-win-win rather than win-dash win.

Living with an Infinite Mindset

41:17 - 47:39

  • The Infinite Mindset is about win-win-win, not just win-win.
  • There's no such thing as being number one in life.
  • Individual athletes tend to experience depression after reaching the top of their game.
  • Olympic athletes have a selfish pursuit of being number one.
  • Inspiration for little kids is not a priority for Olympic athletes.
  • Infinite games have no declared winner and are not about winning business or global politics.
  • Finite games are important within the context of infinite games.
  • Living with an infinite mindset is like living a healthy lifestyle, where various practices contribute to overall well-being.
  • Having finite goals and metrics can help measure progress, but they are not the ultimate focus in an infinite mindset.

Metrics, Goals, and Bravery

47:16 - 54:07

  • Metrics and goals are important, but they should serve a bigger purpose.
  • Gary Ridge from WD-40 missed his numbers on an analyst call, but he said he missed theirs instead.
  • The majority of the work in an organization is still undiscovered, like an iceberg.
  • In-person communication is becoming less comfortable for people compared to online communication.
  • Texting and social media provide a false sense of bravery that can be harmful to others.
  • Bravery should be manifested through actions and daily decisions.

Healthy Disagreement and Conflict

53:38 - 1:00:15

  • Many people have lost the desire to help others and prioritize self-preservation.
  • Disagreement and competition can be healthy if done in a respectful manner.
  • Allowing others to explain themselves, even when they are wrong, can lead to better communication.
  • Interviews and interrogations should focus on building rapport rather than immediately seeking a confession.
  • Conflict and confrontation are often seen as negative, but they can be opportunities for growth and understanding.
  • Competitiveness should not be aggressive or confrontational, but rather an open dialogue.
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