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Charlemagne tha God: A Women Molested Me As A Kid! I Cheated On My Soulmate! Psychedelics Are Fixing My Depression!

Mon May 27 2024
Charlemagne the GodUpbringingStrugglesRole ModelsHealing MethodsSocial MediaPhilanthropyMental HealthBig Conversations

Description

This episode features an in-depth conversation with Charlemagne the God. He shares his upbringing, struggles, and the impact of his father's actions on his life choices. Charlemagne reflects on past traumas, including molestation and bullying, and how they shaped his behavior as an adult. The importance of role models, healing methods, and navigating social media are also discussed. The episode concludes with insights on philanthropy, protecting mental health, and engaging in big conversations.

Insights

Charlemagne emphasizes the significance of understanding one's upbringing and family dynamics to comprehend their present self.

Understanding one's roots is crucial for self-awareness.

The speaker learned to confront and address past traumas through therapy and self-reflection.

Confronting past traumas is essential for personal growth.

The importance of male role models is highlighted in preventing young black men from making detrimental choices.

Positive role models can guide young men towards a better path.

Engaging in alternative healing practices has helped the speaker to be authentic and shed falsehoods in his life.

Alternative healing methods can lead to personal authenticity.

Nuance and objectivity are crucial in understanding different perspectives and seeking the real truth.

Seeking nuance and objectivity is essential for a comprehensive understanding.

Rebuilding relationships through conversations can contribute to healing and understanding each other's experiences.

Open and honest conversations can mend broken relationships.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of serving others and finding true purpose through service.

Serving others brings fulfillment and purpose.

Acknowledgment of the impact of openly discussing struggles and vulnerabilities on mental health and self-acceptance.

Open discussions about struggles can promote mental health and self-acceptance.

Engaging in big talk and uncomfortable conversations can lead to personal growth and stronger relationships.

Having difficult conversations can foster personal growth and deeper connections.

Chapters

  1. Charlemagne's Upbringing and Struggles
  2. Father's Influence and Confronting Past Traumas
  3. Impact of Molestation and Bullying
  4. Challenges in High School and the Importance of Role Models
  5. Masculinity and Being a Good Man
  6. Personal Rock Bottom and Career Path
  7. Rejection, Anxiety, and Finding Success
  8. Dealing with Panic Attacks and Depression
  9. Overcoming Fear and Choosing a Righteous Path
  10. Healing Methods and Authenticity
  11. Navigating Social Media and Seeking Truth
  12. Understanding Different Viewpoints and Rebuilding Relationships
  13. Philanthropy and Service
  14. Investing in Opportunities and Protecting Mental Health
  15. Protecting Mental Health and Engaging in Big Conversations
Summary
Transcript

Charlemagne's Upbringing and Struggles

00:00 - 06:54

  • Charlemagne the God shares his upbringing and how his father's actions influenced him to make certain life choices.
  • He reflects on his past struggles, including selling drugs and getting involved in a shooting incident.
  • Charlemagne discusses how rejection and fear were significant challenges in his career before finding success with The Breakfast Club.
  • He opens up about experiencing suicidal thoughts despite achieving professional success.
  • The podcast host discusses the importance of being honest with oneself to avoid living a lie and the impact of social media on self-perception.
  • Charlemagne emphasizes the significance of understanding one's upbringing and family dynamics to comprehend their present self.

Father's Influence and Confronting Past Traumas

06:30 - 13:18

  • The speaker's father had his own issues, including substance abuse and infidelity, which affected their relationship.
  • The speaker's father initially influenced him to believe in having multiple partners, but later acknowledged that the speaker always had it right by being faithful to one partner.
  • The speaker's childhood experience of a sexual encounter with an older person had lasting effects on his self-esteem and personality.
  • The speaker learned to confront and address past traumas through therapy and self-reflection.

Impact of Molestation and Bullying

12:49 - 19:01

  • The speaker recalls being teased about his nose by an older woman when he was young, leading to psychological effects.
  • The speaker reflects on how he and his friends normalized their experiences of being molested by older women when they were young.
  • The speaker discusses the impact of being molested on his behavior as an adult, including becoming a people pleaser to avoid negative comments.
  • The speaker recounts how bullying from his cousins led him to engage in disruptive behavior in school and eventually get involved in drugs.

Challenges in High School and the Importance of Role Models

18:34 - 25:19

  • The speaker faced challenges in high school and ended up in jail for 45 days due to a shooting involving his friends.
  • The speaker reflects on his past behavior as a teenager, acknowledging the need for guidance and security that he lacked.
  • The importance of male role models is highlighted in preventing young black men from making detrimental choices.
  • Actions speak louder than words when it comes to being a role model, emphasizing the significance of leading by example.
  • The current generation has the opportunity to focus on healing and self-improvement, unlike previous generations who were more focused on survival.

Masculinity and Being a Good Man

24:49 - 31:41

  • The concept of masculinity and role models for men is becoming increasingly unclear in the post-MeToo era.
  • Men are struggling to find positive role models in a society that often glorifies material possessions like Lamborghinis and Rolexes.
  • It's challenging to model oneself after someone's personality or values, especially in the age of social media where people only present curated versions of themselves.
  • The speaker aims to be a good man by being authentic and true to his beliefs, especially as a faithful husband and learning father.
  • Parenting comes with challenges, uncertainties, and the speaker strives to be the supportive adult he needed when he was a child.

Personal Rock Bottom and Career Path

31:13 - 37:52

  • The speaker recalls a driving lesson with their father where they were disciplined without clear instruction, leading to feelings of insecurity and anxiety.
  • The speaker reflects on reaching a personal rock bottom in their early twenties and making positive changes in their life after realizing the consequences of their actions.
  • Growing up, the speaker had aspirations of becoming a rapper due to the influence of successful figures in rap and hip-hop culture.
  • An internship at a radio station in 1998 helped the speaker discover their passion for broadcasting and shaped their future career path.

Rejection, Anxiety, and Finding Success

37:36 - 44:22

  • The speaker got a tattoo of Wolverine holding a microphone when he was 18 or 19, symbolizing his love for Wolverine's healing powers and his early passion for rap music.
  • The speaker faced rejection and got fired from four different radio stations before finding success on the Breakfast Club.
  • The speaker's mother has been very supportive and proud of his accomplishments, offering valuable advice to stay humble and be grateful for making a living.
  • The speaker experienced anxiety and panic attacks, with the first major one occurring after being fired from radio while driving to a comedy show.

Dealing with Panic Attacks and Depression

44:01 - 50:59

  • The speaker initially mistook panic attacks for anxiety and sought therapy in 2015-2016.
  • Despite achieving success and financial stability, the speaker continued to experience panic attacks and depression.
  • The speaker's friend's suicide during COVID triggered intense emotions and thoughts of suicide.
  • Survivor's guilt or remorse from losing close ones to suicide led the speaker to question their own existence.
  • The complex emotions following a friend's suicide include regret, self-doubt, and the desire for more communication before the incident.

Overcoming Fear and Choosing a Righteous Path

50:30 - 57:25

  • Becoming a star externally changed life, but internally struggles persisted with panic attacks and depression.
  • The fear of going back to a difficult past fueled ruthless behavior and projection of hurt onto others.
  • Realization in 2015 led to questioning the path taken and choosing a righteous one to avoid losing oneself.
  • Many people deceive themselves into thinking they can beat negative outcomes from certain lifestyles, despite warnings.
  • Avoiding a crash meant preserving family and avoiding infidelity that could lead to loss.

Healing Methods and Authenticity

56:56 - 1:03:37

  • The speaker emphasizes the importance of being prepared for success and relationships that one asks for.
  • The speaker discusses the disparity in seeking mental health care between white people and black people.
  • The speaker shares his journey of starting therapy in 2016, influenced by conversations with various individuals including Neil Brennan and Pete Davidson.
  • The speaker explores different healing methods such as therapy, meditation, breath work, Reiki, plant-based medicine, and spiritual retreats.
  • Engaging in alternative healing practices has helped the speaker to be authentic and shed falsehoods in his life.

Understanding Different Viewpoints and Rebuilding Relationships

1:09:43 - 1:16:25

  • The speaker believes that a person facing numerous criminal charges should not be the President of the United States.
  • People who voted for Trump have diverse reasons for doing so, and not all can be generalized as having the same beliefs or motivations.
  • Voters may support a candidate based on specific interests or actions taken by that candidate, even if they disagree with other aspects of their policies.
  • Having conversations with people who have different viewpoints can lead to better understanding and empathy towards them.
  • Rebuilding relationships through conversations, like the one between the speaker and his father, can contribute to healing and understanding each other's experiences.

Philanthropy and Service

1:16:00 - 1:22:27

  • The speaker organized the second annual Black Effect podcast festival in Atlanta, featuring various podcasts and activities from 11 a.m. to 7 p.m.
  • The festival included food trucks, vendors, merchandise, and speakers from historically black colleges and universities (HBCUs).
  • The speaker is passionate about service and providing opportunities through projects like the Thrill of Possibility Summit for HBCU students and Mental Wealth Alliance for free therapy.
  • The speaker emphasizes the importance of serving others and finding true purpose through service.
  • Growing up in a humble background taught the speaker the value of giving back, leading to philanthropic efforts like starting scholarship funds.

Investing in Opportunities and Protecting Mental Health

1:21:58 - 1:28:25

  • The speaker donated a significant amount of money to South Carolina State University, inspired by Congressman Clyburn's example.
  • The speaker values providing opportunities and being of service more than material possessions like luxury cars.
  • The discussion highlights the shift in mindset from spending on lavish items to investing wisely, influenced by past models like rap videos.
  • The fear of experiencing grief, particularly the loss of loved ones, is a deeply personal concern for the speaker.
  • Acknowledgment of the impact of openly discussing struggles and vulnerabilities on mental health and self-acceptance.

Protecting Mental Health and Engaging in Big Conversations

1:27:56 - 1:35:03

  • The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's humanity and spiritual essence amidst life challenges.
  • There is a warning about submitting one's will to the negative influences of the internet and social media, which can lead to anxiety, insecurity, imposter syndrome, and depression.
  • The speaker advocates for protecting mental health by avoiding toxic interactions on social media and focusing on authenticity and big conversations.
  • Engaging in big talk and uncomfortable conversations can lead to personal growth and stronger relationships, as highlighted by the speaker's own experience.
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